So who/what the heck is “It’s Character Building”?

Well, it’s me, Laura Graham, 30-something, from the Midlands, UK, trying in some tiny way to make a positive difference to this crazy world we’re all living in.


Through writing, mostly. Not only for this blog but freelance for publications like The Happy Newspaper and charities like Macmillan. I also design and deliver learning interventions to help people move forward positively in their lives.

What makes me qualified?

A combination of life experience and 15 years professional experience. During my career, I have worked in the public, private and third sectors. My jobs roles span learning and development, mental and physical health, employability, sales and project management.

Why should you care?

I guess you shouldn’t if you don’t want to. The only thing you need to know is that I care. I care about creating healthy communities made up of happy, connected human beings. I’m keen to do that by cutting the crap and getting back to basics. The basics being that we are all exactly the same, with the same anxieties, problems, insecurities and fears. I want to shine a light on that fact and help people work together to overcome the harmful effects these negative influences can have.

What brought me here?

The main thing would be losing my mum to breast cancer when I was 26. That event changed me fundamentally and sent me on a journey through grief and depression. I made lots of mistakes but as a result learned more about myself and other people than I ever could have, without that experience. Hence the name of the blog - whenever anything bad happened, my mum would tell me “It’s Character Building” and she couldn’t have been more right.

What next?

Take a look around! I want you to feel like you’re home. Read through the blogs, have a look at the courses that are running. Don’t see what you need/want? No problem! Contact me. I’m always looking to collaborate with individuals and organisations so no request is too weird. As you’ll see, I like weird.
I hope you enjoy the website. If you’d like to, connect with me on social media and tell me what you think.
Sending all the love,
Laura xx



  • “Reading these blogs has shown me that someone else has similar thoughts to me and that has made me feel some kind of comfort. I see the thoughts of someone else and reflect on my own situation with her positive influence.”

    -Aaron, Bicycle Mechanic
  • “Laura is quite simply AMAZING!! It’s Character Building gives me positive inspiration when it feels like life sucks! I love how open & honest Laura is, her blogs are always totally realistic, and I love the fact she’s quite happy to admit that actually yes, life is just shit sometimes, but she manages to find the positive in pretty much any situation.”

    -Jane, Young Carer
  • “Laura’s blogs are always thought-provoking, whether positive and uplifting (and very often humorous) or even when she acknowledges the utter rubbish that life throws at people, including herself. Her posts have been one of the highlights of a rather horrible year for me. Thank you Laura.”

    -Hilary, Museum Assistant